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Aftercare – Emotional and physical support given after a scene.
Age Play – Roleplay involving age differences, like caregiver/little dynamics
Anal Hook – A steel hook used in anal play, often paired with rope bondage.
Authority Transfer – Another term for consensual power exchange
Bondage – Restricting movement using ropes, cuffs, or restraints.
Brat – A submissive who playfully disobeys to provoke dominance.
Blindfold – Used to heighten other senses during play.
Boot Worship – Fetish involving kissing, licking, or polishing boots.
CBT – Cock and Ball Torture, a type of male masochism
Collar – Symbol of ownership, often worn by a submissive.
Consensual Non-Consent (CNC) – Pre-negotiated play involving pretend resistance
Cuckolding – Watching a partner have sex with someone else.
Dom/Domme – A dominant person in a BDSM dynamic
Dungeon – A space equipped for BDSM play.
Discipline – Rules and punishments in a D/s relationship
Drop – Emotional/energy crash after intense scenes or play
Edge Play – Risky forms of BDSM that push physical/emotional boundaries.
Erotic Humiliation – Deliberate embarrassment for arousa.
Electroplay – Using controlled electric current for stimulation
Fetish – A sexual fixation on a specific object, body part, or behavior
Figging – Inserting ginger root anally for a burning sensation.
Flogging – Striking with a multi-tailed whip (flogger)
Foot Worship – Fetish involving feet, including touching, kissing, or massaging
Gag – A device placed in the mouth to prevent speech.
Golden Showers – Urine play
Gorean – Based on the fictional world of Gor; involves strict master/slave roles
Hard Limits – Activities a person never consents to.
Humiliation Play – Scenes designed to embarrass or degrade consensually
Impact Play – Spanking, flogging, paddling, or striking
Intense Sensation Play – Playing with strong physical sensations.
Jute Rope – A natural fiber rope used in Shibari and rope bondage
Knife Play – Using blunt or sharp blades for sensation.
Kink – Any unconventional sexual practice or desire
Leash – Often attached to a collar, symbolizing control.
Limits – Boundaries negotiated before play.
Little – A submissive who enjoys regressing to a childlike state.
Masochist – Someone who enjoys receiving pain.
Mummification – Fully wrapping the body, usually in plastic or bandages.
Needle Play – Temporary insertion of medical-grade needles
Nipple Play – Sensual or painful stimulation of nipples.
Orgasm Control – Includes denial, forced orgasms, or edging
Owner – A person who takes responsibility for a submissive
Pain Play – Using pain for stimulation or dominance.
Paddle – A flat instrument used for spanking
Pet Play – Roleplaying as animals (e.g., puppy, kitten).
Queening – A dominant woman sitting on a partner’s face
Rope Bunny – A person who enjoys being tied up
Rigger – The person doing the tying in rope play.
Roleplay – Acting out scenarios or power dynamics
Sadist – Someone who enjoys giving pain.
Safe Word – A pre-agreed word to stop or slow play.
Shibari – Japanese rope bondage with aesthetic and ritual elements.
Slave – A submissive who gives full control to a dominant.
Topping from the Bottom – A submissive trying to control the scene
TENS Unit – Device for electrical stimulation.
Thuddy vs Stingy – Describes the sensation of impact (deep vs sharp).
Total Power Exchange (TPE) – A consensual dynamic where a submissive gives complete authority to their dominant in all aspects of life, not just during scenes
Uniform Fetish – Attraction to military, medical, or authority uniforms.
Urethral Play – Insertion into the urethra (advanced and risky)
Voyeurism – Arousal from watching others, especially during scenes.
Violet Wand – A device for electrostimulation with a glowing arc.
Wax Play – Dripping hot wax on the skin for sensation.
Whipping – Using a single- or multi-tail whip for impact play.
X-Frame – Also called a St. Andrew’s Cross; used to restrain a person.
Yes, And… – Improv-style agreement technique sometimes used in roleplay.
Zentai – A fetish involving full-body spandex suits
Zippers – Clothespins attached in a line and yanked off quickly.